Don’t Be Quick to Judge a Parent With A Child With Autism




Written By:Felecia Causey
Photography By: Felecia Causey
Models: Jasmine, Stanley, and Carter (son)




A parent’s love for their child is unconditional no matter what.  Many families are forced with different challenges. Just like any other disability, those who are not affected sometimes, have misconceptions about something they don’t understand. Autism isn’t recognizable by physical features, kids with autism don't have an identifiable facial feature that allows someone to know he/she has autism. As any person, a child with autism should be treated kindly and with respect.



Although many are quick to judge any child this way, it’s very important to not make assumptions. They have feelings, even if their facial expression doesn’t show it or they’re not able to verbalize what’s on their mind. We must be mindful to understand that parents try their best to go beyond to ensure their child has the best care possible.



The most difficult task is looking for help from family and friends when they don’t understand how to handle a child that has autism.  Daycares are hard to find for parents, due to lack of staff or because of lack of experience to handle kids with special needs. Unfortunately, this causes many parents to have to quit their job for lack of childcare services available to them.


Many kids that are autistic, verbal communication, may hit language milestones later than children with typical development and sometimes it doesn’t come at all.




Parents have to learn what triggers meltdowns. The people who are not familiar with why the child is being upset or having an episode will quickly judge the child and their parents.




Every autistic child is different, so as a family member or close friend, try not to add to the stress and anxiety, but help de-escalate for both the parent and the child. Be empathetic and acknowledge their struggles without judgment.



As it’s sometimes exhausting both emotionally and physically raising kids, parents of a child with autism must always be on their toes. If you know someone who has an autistic kid, be the person who will listen and who they can talk to without feeling judged.  With today’s problem it’s quite enough judgment going around, so helping them stay calm and giving unconditional love are the key ingredients for helping any parent to get through their day to day.


Just like raising a child with no disability, raising a child with one, such as autism, you must focus on the positive. The priority is trying your best to do what’s best for both you and your child/children.


Dear Parents with Kids with Autism:

You got this and even your child (children) may not verbally express their love and gratitude, it’s there and you are doing great.







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