Written By: Felecia Causey
Photography By: Felecia Causey
After years of watching my kids play sports, being a team mom, and attending every game and track meet, I've seen both good and bad. Sports have evolved dramatically since my time as a player. The rules, the costs, and even the behavior during the games.
I am a huge believer in rules. I truly believe that because common sense is not as common, people tend to engage in improper actions. When emotions run high, we sometimes forget it's just a game and they're children. Going to the games to hang out with friends is no longer as simple as it once was. You have to be concerned about guns and fights breaking out. The disrespect shown by children around adults has become sad.
Sports expenses are getting as pricey as your entire household's bills. The participation fee, uniforms, gas for each game, shoes, food costs before and after the games, tickets (plus an online fee), and so on. However, the memories, laughter, and friendships are priceless.
Let us talk more about the fees. I know you're saying they should make the team first. That is true, but most sports begin around the same time each year, so begin preparing before the season starts. So, it's better to be prepared than unprepared when your child makes the team.
As a team mom for many years, I've seen how ungrateful people and their children can be. Be present and contribute as much as you can. You should not be the parents that hide their faces. If a team mom asks for funds or volunteers, don't shy away. She is doing it for free and volunteering her time, which is not something a person is required to do.
BEING THERE! My children have played on teams where they had to sit on the bench, but I always showed up. Parents, even if you sit in your car during the game, stay close since your child needs an adult presence, especially with so much going on. If you are unable to attend, allow someone to "stand in the gap." Although other people are supposed to protect your child, I believe they need the presence of a family member. After dealing with an unprofessional referee who bullied my child and many of his teammates to the extent that there was an investigation. (I thought it was bullcrap when the evidence was clear on film and there were so many witnesses), and I encourage all parents to try to attend every game. One day, I'll post this story and video on TikTok and my blog.
One of the most common issues I've observed throughout sports season is that children do not have timely transportation to and from practices and games. I feel terrible for the coaches because, after a long day or night, they are eager to return home to their families. Most of the parents I've met are willing to help one another. "You must open your mouth." Don't make it your child's job to locate a ride home. With so much going on, get to know the person you allow your children to be with. A simple phone call, email, text, or brief introduction goes a long way and is also the right thing to do. Also, "offer" compensation. Most parents will reject it because it is more than that for the entire squad. If you can't afford to pay them, simply say "thank you." Fellow parents do it because they want to, not because they want something in return.
As school sports have begun, I hope the students have fun, do well, work hard, get fair calls, make friends, and, most importantly, have fun. Remember that parents lay the groundwork for their children's success on and off the court or field.
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