When You are Going Out to Eat BYOM (Bring Your Own Money)

Written By Felecia Causey

Post after post on various platforms such as Instagram, Reels, and TikTok videos show how awkward moments arise when one person suddenly suggests diving all costs fairly by counting heads around tableside gatherings. However, if this idea isn't discussed beforehand and is brought up at the last minute, it can cause tension and discomfort among those involved.

Living in this era presents unique challenges for people around us, and we must grapple with new realities where assumptions can no longer be made about shared understanding.

In a viral video, a woman who ordered an abundance of drinks and extra takeout plates racked up a hefty balance, only to suggest that her fellow diners split the cost equally amongst themselves, despite their orders being significantly less expensive. This scenario has left many upset as they ponder how this could be considered fair.

It's important to be practical when considering eating out. If funds are not available, the smart thing to do is stay at home and find alternative options for satisfying your hunger.

While birthdays are certainly a cause for celebration, it's vital to remember that people are not obligated to foot the bill for your festivities merely because it's your special day. It's crucial to be considerate of others' finances and boundaries.

Many people perceive individuals as selfish when they choose not to participate in splitting the bill, especially if they are caught off guard. It's not that they lack financial resources, but rather that they don't believe it's their duty to cover the costs for other adults.

To ensure financial security and independence, it is important to always have your own funds. A valuable lesson I've learned is to never go anywhere without having some money set aside for yourself. It is not smart to assume that someone else will take care of your financial needs, so it is crucial to teach their importance to our children as well. If you find yourself in a situation where you don't have the money, sometimes the best option is to sit out.