Don’t Allow People To Tell You To Get Over It

 



Written By: Felecia Causey


If I recall I have never told anyone to get over something that made them upset, angry, or hurt.  It’s not my place to tell them .I don’t know their healing process, and it's really not my business or anyone else's. Some emotional hurt recovery doesn’t happen overnight.


 I recall someone telling me the story of how their mom left them at a young age because of a man. She never called, sent money, or helped their elderly grandmother pay bills or purchased any food.  The young person told me how even though her grandmother did her best, they still struggled and emotionally she was completely broken. She continued to question was she enough or was she that bad that her own birth mother could leave her so easily. Well fast forward to present time, and the mother needs a place to stay and wants to be in the grandkids’ lives. When confronting her mother, the mother always responds that it's time to move from the past. The young woman wanted my opinion, I told her that she must make sure she take care of herself, and do what she feels is best. 


People in her family are pressuring her because she is not ready to have that type of relationship with her mother and allow her the opportunity to hurt her kids.  The situation made 

her not trust people or have healthy relationships.


As humans our heart yearns for love and acceptance from those we love, so the hurt we receive from them hurts differently. You can’t put a time frame on how anyone is trying to keep themselves sane.


I can personally speak for myself that the pain that someone has inflicted on you can take years to recover from. Therapy or speaking to a pastor/mentor may help suppress and bury the hurt, but it will take prayer and time with God to really heal. When faced with it again or you see the person that inflicted the pain ,does all the emotions start all over again? If so go deeper into what your healing process is, and reach harder for God's healing hand.


Relax, chill and give people their space. Your time expectation of healing doesn’t really affect the person's healing process. Respect a person's boundaries during these emotional rollercoasters.






Take your time, you know what’s in your heart. Don’t ever make anyone push you into feeling like you're on a time schedule to forgive or get over something. Do you and what’s best for you. Demand space and demand time, because you know how you feel deep down inside.

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