Stop Allowing Temporary People To Be A Part of Life's Special Moments


 




Written By: Felecia Causey

Photography By: Felecia Causey

We live in a time, where people switch up personalities, change friends, and betray the people they claim to love like it is nothing. Most times it’s sad to say that we allow temporary people to be a part of special moments. Brides and grooms are so quick to allow folks to stand beside them at their weddings, moms allowing friendenemies to be in the delivery room while giving birth, parents giving the title god-parent to those that don’t even live up to the name, and inviting people into your home that is jealous of you. 

I have many brides that have told me they regret the wedding party they selected. One bride shared that her maid of honor acted so ugly, the moment she found out they were engaged. She didn’t smile in any of the photos, and wasn’t even interested in any of the bridal activities. Several brides told me they don’t even talk to hardly any of the ladies that stood beside her that day. These were people she had known most her life. They had been a part of the most special things of her life, and they quickly went ghost.





As a birth photographer, I can understand the excitement. The moment the child is born, there is no feeling to describe the emotions of the parents and people in the room. However, a room full of people that you aren’t close with shouldn’t be able to partake into something so special. Folks are in the room to be nosey, be the first to see who the baby looks like, or having bragging rights of being able to see the baby first. Why are you allowing people to be a part of something so big? The same person who was able to view your private parts and watch your child be born, doesn't even participate in the child’s life or yours for that matter. 









I personally was never big on giving anyone the title god mom or father to my kids. I didn’t have a relationship or was ever close enough to someone that deserved to be called that. I have had many conversations with people where they told me they had to take the title back, because the person did not fill the shoes or expectations they had for the role. They were complete strangers to the child, but wanted to hold such an amazing honor.  This is not the case for some, they are blessed to have special people, who love their child as their own. If you have found someone that has taken this role seriously, do not use or abuse them, but always stay grateful.





 

People are so quick to allow people to come into their personal space. I think before allowing anyone to come into your home, including family, is a big thing. I had one of my clients tell me that they caught a cousin they once let visited on camera, came back to their house when they were gone, and robbed them. People are so unpredictable, so being careful isn't crazy, it’s you trying to stay out of people's way that have no good intentions. There is nothing wrong with having a small circle. If a person can’t respect boundaries then don’t let them into where you lay your head. I don’t believe in allowing everyone to come into my house. It’s terrifying that you have to ask yourself what a person's motive is. Is their intention good? Is their goal there to kill and destroy the joy and peace of your household?  


The next time a special moment comes in your life, please make sure the people you decide to share it with are not temporary relationships or situations.


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