Don't Be Quick to Judge a Parent with a Child with Autism

Written By: Felecia Causey

Photography By: Felecia Causey

No matter what happens, a parent will always love their child. Numerous families face a variety of difficulties. Similar to people with any other disability, people without the condition occasionally have misconceptions about things they don't fully comprehend. Physical characteristics are not a sign of autism; children with autism lack a distinctive facial characteristic that would enable someone to identify them. A child with autism needs to be treated with kindness and respect, just like any other person.

Even though many people are quick to draw this conclusion about any child, it's crucial to avoid drawing conclusions. Even if they can't express their feelings verbally or their facial expressions don't reflect it, they still have feelings. We have to be aware that parents go above and beyond in an effort to give their children the best care possible.

Seeking assistance from friends and family who are ill-equipped to care for an autistic child is the hardest thing to do. Parents find it difficult to locate daycare because of staffing shortages or a lack of experience working with children who have special needs. Unfortunately, the lack of childcare options forces a lot of parents to resign from their jobs.

 

When it comes to verbal communication, many autistic children may reach language milestones later or never at all than typically developing children.

 Parents have to learn what triggers meltdowns. People who don't understand the child's reasons for being upset or experiencing an episode will quickly pass judgment on both the child and the parents.

 Since each autistic child is unique, it is best for you, as a family member or close friend, to assist in defusing the situation rather than adding to the parent's or child's stress and anxiety. Show empathy and accept their difficulties without passing judgment.

     Parents of children with autism must constantly be on their toes because raising children can be emotionally and physically taxing at times. Be the person who will listen to someone who knows someone with an autistic child and who they can talk to without feeling judged. Given the current situation, there is already a lot of judgment floating around, so the key to assisting any parent in getting through their daily struggles is to support them in maintaining their composure and showing them unconditional love.

Raising a child with a disability—like autism—requires you to concentrate on the good things in life, just like raising a child without one. Making every effort to act in the best interests of your child or children comes first.

To all parents of autistic children:

Even though your child or children may not verbally express their love and gratitude, you are doing great, and you can handle this. You got this.