Everyone Will Not Celebrate Your Joyous Moments

Written By: Felecia Causey

When I browse TikTok, I notice that many individuals share their private moments with friends, family, and strangers alike. When people announce their engagements, pregnancies, or new ventures, I see complete strangers wish them well and offer encouraging remarks. I've seen countless cases where people's businesses have thrived as a result of having strangers become their primary source of support. It's a sad but irrefutable fact that most of your childhood friends and relatives would support someone in your area of work since, in most situations, those people aren't as happy as they appear. They don't like your social media posts, but send a private message to congratulate so no one else knows.

Even though most people want to see you doing "just ok," not better than what they're doing, I've learned to focus on the small details.

When you get married, you'll realize that your Facebook friends who celebrated with you are actually resentful since they've been dating for years, have children, but haven't been engaged. She keeps posting status updates with subtle hints because she believes you did not deserve this.

There's also the angry relative who had her children out of wedlock and mocks you for doing the same since they're "so religious" and you're unimportant to them. She is not allowing you to appreciate the moment; rather, she is asking you to remain concealed and not celebrate. Furthermore, her son has four different women's children.

Watching how people you consider to be in your circle act in ways that reflect their true feelings.

It's a pain that will keep you from enjoying the big occasion in your life or celebrating yourself. Years ago, I learned not to have high expectations of friends, colleagues, and even your "blood family."

I've learned how to be joyful and excited about myself while still setting a good example for others. Even if those close to me don't share my appreciation for my blessings, I shouldn't let them dictate my happiness.

Happy pregnancy, expectant mommy! Give yourself the freedom to share with whomever and however you want. Do you own your own business or have a new job? Be prepared to stand and party alone at times, but feel free to share it or send it to the roof top if you like.

Even if some people believe you don't deserve it, remember that God has given you this opportunity. Celebrate, be joyful, and be proud of yourself. Even if you supported them and expressed your excitement for them, you are unlikely to receive anything in return.