Written By:Felecia Causey
As a full-time stay-at-home mother, I make no apologies for calling it a 24/7 job. I always strive to prioritize the kids and the house. I aim to be organized, happy, and on top of every detail.
I was starting to feel bad because I was continually craving time to myself. I believe that many mothers will agree that they need to know who they are outside of motherhood.
With kids aged 19 and 17, I've only been away from them once overnight. I'm not complaining because I couldn't; rather, I decided to share every minute with them. Aside from my mommy-to-do list, I rarely had "me" time. I felt terrible and concerned about the consequences for wanting or needing to do so. I began to wonder if I should start taking some time off to rejuvenate myself.
As I plan my upcoming vacations, I've started to feel worried, but I've chosen to prioritize myself. However, with my first impending encounter, I hope I do not back out due to maternal separation anxiety. My daily life revolves primarily around my children and their routines.
I'm excited and nervous. I know it will help me build myself and relieve stress. I need a few days out of the year to wake up sans my usual routine. I'd love to sleep in and not have to worry about cooking breakfast, but rather have it given to me. On those days, I don't want to think about the laundry or what to make for dinner. I'd love to sit in bed all day and watch TV or read a good book.
We should not feel bad about taking a break from time to time.
I am sure many people would think I am selfish and want to abandon my children. Some will argue that it is my job, and I do not require a reward for carrying out my responsibilities. My children mean more to me than anything I could write, and because they are of an age to recognize all that I do for them, they always tell me to take a vacation. I do this for them because my position as a mother is very important to me. Yes, there were times when I sobbed because I was fatigued from ensuring they had all they required, or when I didn't get any sleep because I chose to stay awake while they were sick. As a mother who is always attached to her children, I've learned to appreciate the luxury of taking a day or three to unwind and recollect who I am.
Moms, remember to take care of yourself so you can care for your children. As I write this article, I'm realizing that it's perfectly normal to want to take a vacation. Life throws many curve balls at you, so take a quick "me time" when the opportunity arises.
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